Dear Confused,




Let me see if I can reign you IN.....your confused right? Guess what? SO IS HE.... ;-) confusion causes us to say and do things that rational and non confused people wouldn't do.


In a nutshell...he is metabolizing a lot..between you and him...between his dreams and the road towards those dreams....between right now and later...between cali and vancouver...between 30 something 'free' good looking single guy and a relationship....


Men take a lot more time to catch up to stability, rational decision making, planning, preparing....doing!


You could do many things at this point...though I can not tell you what to do...but I can tell you about a personal experience:


I once loved a man...he loved me..but would not or could not decide on what he wanted for our future...Instead of pissing or getting off the pot...he wavered....he fluttered in and out..professing his love.... disappearing.....building his career...sharing his success..hiding his failures...sheltering his betrayal....loving me...in words...not in action...pushing me away..pulling me back....walking away....running towards.....doing magic......behaving irrationally.......


So what did I do?  I decided what was best for me....I walked away still loving him...will he catch up?  


Occasionally I look back to see if he is still in sight.....sometimes he is slightly visible....most of the time he is not.....


So I keep going....because life is a collection of moments...and i can not spend a collection of these moments waiting..wishing...hoping....




Love You....


Qiana

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